Ways To Be Better At Everything In Bed | Getting Started

Curious about fantasies? Need to break your sex routine? Wish you could initiate sex more often? Then you need to our simple guide to sexual satisfaction.

Getting started: "This requires a complete and utter trashing of all things clich," says body language expert. "Candles, suspenders and Barry White can pile on the pressure rather than ease it. A shared shower can be a good beginning but so it being assertive enough to suggest a "quickie" if that's what you want." According to having a great sex life is not about creating your own mini porn movie every night, it's about finding new ways to initiate sex and having as much fun as possible.

Don't wait until bedtime or after a big dinner, when you're both feeling sleepy not sexy. Early morning sex can be a brilliant start to the day, and lets you cruise to work feeling loved and lusted. The element of surprise can be a huge turn on. So grab your partner when he least expects it. "Without warning, take his hand and lead him - not to the bed but somewhere new - the floor or a piece of furniture, and just do it there and then." Or even have a quickie 15 minutes before your parents are coming for lunch.

Think beyond your tried and tested routine. If you usually have ex on a Friday night, then instead take a picnic to bed on Saturday afternoon. Or if you find sex during the week too much effort, join him in the shower after work and see where that leads you.

Something as simple as buying new lingerie can make a world of difference. "I cannot describe the impact it made when I threw out all the frayed, grey pants that lucked in my drawers," says expert record company. "I'm not interested in stockings and suspenders because it's just not me, but I now make sure all my underwear fits and flatters. I also do things that make me feel better about my body like swimming and yoga. It may sound obvious, but if I feel sexy, it's much easier to be sexy for someone else."

Another thing to remember is that in the real world, perfect looks are rarely the turn on they're supposed to be - just think of all the gorgeous celebs who have trouble finding and keeping a mate. Don't ever let your body be the reason for not having sex. Remember, we're attracted to each other for very complex reasons and if he likes you enough to get into bed with you, then he already finds you attractive.